Many women have been wondering why men don’t speak out about sexual harassment and sexual predators. Please indulge me.
For the past couple of years, I’ve felt nauseous hearing about sexual harassment and sexual predators—people who use their power over the opposite sex to obtain advantage. It’s the notion of “power over” that is so disturbing. “Power over” implies a sense of entitlement.
Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby are celebrities who have acted as sexual predators for years. Once the stories come out, they act as though they have been victimized, not their accusers.
Bill Cosby claims his improper acts with some 50 women were consensual even though he drugged them so he could rape them. A women who can’t give consent is a victim of rape by someone who orchestrated a situation where he could have “power over” the woman. “America’s dad” is a sexual predator and a serial offender.
Harvey Weinstein believed his actions would remain secret due to significant payoffs and non-disclosure agreements. The women he harassed or assaulted were afraid to come forward as reporting the crimes could endanger their careers. Another instance of “power over.”
Weinstein just checked into therapy to correct his proclivities. While therapy might help reprogram his mind, will it change what’s in his heart?
Brock Turner, the infamous Stanford student, raped a fellow student and gained great publicity for the light sentence he received after being found guilty. After his conviction, his father opined on TV, “Brock has paid a horrendous price for 20 minutes of action.” Like father, like son?
ISIS instructed its soldiers to rape women as long as they do it in a prayerful way using a technique prescribed by ISIS. A “religion” that advocates rape isn’t a religion. God doesn’t grant special dispensation for violating a woman ever including during war.
If you have to force yourself on a woman, you’re not a man–you’re a predator and a criminal.
Men, repeat after me:
- Sexual harassment is never okay.
- Sexual predation is never okay.
- Rape is never okay.
Corporations have an obligation to ensure their people are free from sexual harassment and sexual predators. If there are employees committing sexual harassment or sexual predation, they are a cancer within your organization that must be eradicated.
Thought for the week:
My thoughts are with the victims of the horrific fires in Northern California, the first responders who have performed so valiantly, the businesses that have been wiped out, the jobs that have been lost and/or negatively impacted and the economic losses for employees and businesses due to these fires.
Dave Gardner is a management consultant, speaker, blogger and author based in Silicon Valley. He's been in the front row for the birth and evolution of Silicon Valley, the innovation capital of the world. Since 1992, Dave Gardner has focused on making the complex simple around people, process and technology. He can be reached through his website, www.DaveGardner.biz, or via phone at +1 408-475-7068.